Making friends can be a daunting activity. It’s especially daunting for new students or students just starting out at school. But for some people, making friends is easy. They might be confident and a bit of an extravert, making it easier for them to include themselves in a conversation. However, for our shyer or introverted students, making friends can seem a little difficult. But that’s not to worry!
Getting involved is a great way to find people with similar interests. It might be a sports team or a club. Inserting yourself into a situation where you feel confident and interested in will allow you to converse with the others. The common interest in whatever the club, sport or activity focuses on, is a great starting point for a friendship.
Going up to a group full of people who possibly all know each other and are engaged in conversation may spark a sense of anxiety. But chances are, there’s someone in the playground who is just like you. So, why not approach them? Approach the student who might be sitting alone on at a desk in class or the student wandering the grounds at lunch. They might be just like you at the start, a little shy and nervous, but that can also be common ground too!
Ask questions. It’s a lot easier for someone to talk about themselves initially. Some people love it more than others… Asking what they’re favourite TV show is, or what their favourite subject is or what they got up to on their holidays, gets it off and running. You can also keep it going by asking some follow up questions. Asking what the show is about, why they like that subject and if they have any plans for the next holidays. Once the conversation gets going, it’s likely that the other person involved will flip it around and ask questions of you.
At the end of the day, you don’t want to make friends by pretending to be someone you are not. Now we know it sounds cheesy, but yes, we are saying to just be yourself. You’ve heard it before I’m sure, but have you ever put it in to practise? Who wants to be friends with someone who doesn’t really understand who you truly are? We don’t and we don’t think you do either. Perhaps not everyone will like you, but there will be people that do. The fun is finding those people!
It’s always daunting at first with any new situation. Rome wasn’t built in a day…unfortunately. So that means, you may not have found your bestest friend in one day, but just wait. Be yourself and act confident.